失败不是成功之母,成功才是成功之母






我最近在酒吧和Mick聚了一下,他是个音乐节目主持人,经常和名人和名牌打交道,我俩聊到了他的今后打算,他有一个野心,要扩大自己的业务,但是像所有的企业家一样,他也有担心:会成功吗?如果他缺乏下一步成功的资源怎么办?

就在前一天,我还见了媒体的一个朋友,也有同样的担忧。她正在考虑换工作,就此征求我的意见,在出版界她是个明星般人物,如果她不能重复以前的成功怎么办?她说:“可是这份新的工作对我来说,又变成了一个普通员工。”

深究一下所有人的未来打算,你都会发现他们各有担忧,只是版本不同罢了。这种担忧一直存在,一直困扰着人们,有时还会消磨掉人前行的意志。如果我们顺其自然,那就会错过了很多精彩的机会。我们为了待在过去舒适区而牺牲掉了未来,结果是一事无成,这个结果难以接受。向前发展的唯一路径就是克服这种焦虑,为了克服焦虑,我们首先要弄清楚这种焦虑究竟是什么。所以我们换个方式看这个问题,我们找找这个问题的本质究竟是什么。

       当我们担忧不能重复过去的成功时,我们实际上是在问:过去的成功是不是都是靠运气得来的?是不是因为团队,或者天时,或者是青春的红利带来的?是不是这一切的成功都不是靠我自己的本事干出来的?

我想跟你说:你这是狗屁想法!

我这么说是因为我接触过太多的企业家。他们经历过挫折,谁没经历过!可是他们过来了。过去的经历教会他们懂得如果未来遇见挫折,他们也一定能化险为夷。成功创立了一个企业让他们明白还可以再成功创立一个。作为企业的领袖他们在进化,而且他们也知道他们还会继续进化。在刚踏上创业之路时,他们可能对自己没有这样的信心,但是信心在持续上升。没错,他们向他人证明了他们的价值,但更重要的,他们更向自己证明了自己的价值。

我自己清楚这些,是因为我自己就是从这条路上走过来的。我记得我的第一份在波士顿的一家杂志的工作,但是后来考虑去《Men’s Health(《男士健康》)杂志工作,我很害怕,在波士顿我已交了不少好朋友,工作干得也不错,如果到新的单位不如以前好怎么办?但是害怕归害怕,我还是决定要试一试。三年后,我又重复了前面的成功,我又交了一些好朋友,而且在《Men’s Health》干得也不错。每次接受了其它地方的工作,都是同样感到害怕,如果不能再次重复之前的成功怎么办?可是我又成功了。因此,我得出个结论,坦诚的说,这个结论听起来有点狂妄,或是自吹自擂,但确实助我在后来新的领域取得了成功,我的结论就是:我的成功,我认为,不是我所在的公司给我创造的,而是我自己创造的。

企业家经常说对失败负有责任,敢承认是好事,失败了就失败了,不找借口!我们要有失败,因为没有失败就没有教训。但我们更不能没有成功,我们的自信就建立在成功之上,我们只有一次是白手起家,所经历的一切都会成为我们的财富,过去的路是我们继续成功前行的指路明灯。

在每一次成功中有没有运气成分?当然有,我们在事业上都会冒险,经过一些不可衡量的能力、时机和好运的相互均衡,但都带来了回报,于是我们才能拥有今天的一切。但是这一切都是缘于运气吗?如果我们从头再来一次,有没有可能会得到失败的结果呢?绝不可能!运气会对路程有影响,会改变风向,如果在过程中运气有所改变,我可能不会做我目前的工作。但是我绝对肯定我已经找到了其它的通向成功的路径,我会拥有另一个不同版本的成功,我想这一点对每个人都是一样的。

我们是企业家:我们用我们拥有的才华和能力去工作。有时候是有运气眷顾,有时候没有。重要的是我们一直不懈向前。我们知道正是因为我们曾经迈出向前的一大步,而且我们没有倒下,所以我们仍会挺胸抬头,跨大步迈向下一个成功!






英文原文:

You Did It. Now Do It Again

Here’s the most important lesson you can learn from your past.

 

I WAS AT A BAR recently with MICK, a successful DJ who spins for celebrities and big brands, and we were discussing his future. He has ambitious plans to expand his business, but like any entrepreneur, he’s also concerned: Can he pull it off? What if he isn’t equipped for the next steps?

A day earlier, I’d heard a different example of that same fear. A friend in media was considering changing jobs and asked for my advice. She’s a rock star at her publication. “But at this new job, I’ll just be another employee,” she said. What if she can’t repeat the success she has right now?

Dig into anybody’s future plans and you’ll hit some version of this anxiety. It’s always there, aching and sometimes paralyzing. If we indulge it, we turn down amazing opportunities. We sacrifice our futures in order to cling to the past. We lose. And that’s unacceptable. The only way forward is to overcome this anxiety—and to do that, we first need to understand it. So let’s put the question another way. Let’s see it for what it really is.

When we worry that we can’t repeat our past successes, we’re essentially asking: What if everything thus far was luck? What if it was my team, or timing, or the benefits of youth? What if none of it had to do with me?

And let me tell you something: That’s crap.

I know this because of the entrepreneurs I meet. They encountered setbacks—everyone does! — but they overcame them. The experience taught them that they can survive future setbacks, too. They built one company and learned they can build another. They evolved as leaders and learned they can keep evolving. At the beginning of their journeys, they may not have had such confidence in themselves. But that confidence grew. They proved their worthto others, yes, but most importantly to themselves.

I also know this because I’ve lived it myself. I remember being at my first magazine job in Boston and considering taking a new job at Men’s Health. It was scary. I’d made good friends and done good work in Boston; what if I couldn’t repeat that? But frightened as I was, I decided to try my hand. Three years later, I was on repeat. I’d made good friends and done good work at Men’s Health, was offered another job elsewhere, and felt the same fear. What if I can’t repeat the success a second time? But I did. And so I came to a conclusion that, frankly, may sound pompous and self-aggrandizing but has helped me walk into every new situation afterward: My success, I decided, wasn’t created by the company where I worked. It was created by me.

Entrepreneurs talk a lot about taking responsibility for failure. It’s a good message: No excuses! We need to own our mistakes; it’s the only way to learn from them. But let’s not forget to own our successes, too. Our confidence should build upon itselfknowing that we only start from scratch once, that we have what it takes, that our past simply shows a way forward.

Is there a little luck in every success? Sure. We all took risks in our careers, and, through some unmeasurable balance of skill and timing and good fortune, they paid off in ways that led us to where we are. But was it all luck? If we had to do it over again, is there a chance we’d end up as failures? No way. Luck just influenced the path. It shifted the winds. If luck had broken for me differently, I wouldn’t have this job I have now—but I am absolutely certain that I’d have found some other satisfying path and built some different version of success, and I think the same is true for us all.

We’re entrepreneurs: We work with what we’ve got. Sometimes it’s a lucky break. Sometimes it’s not. The important thing is that we keep moving forward—and know that because we took one big step forward, and we didn’t fall down, we will stay standing when we take that next step, too.